Well, as the dust starts to settle, I have had some time to
think. I haven’t slept much at all the
past few nights. And as I have thought
through some things, I’ve realized it has been a long time since I used this
space as an outlet. As I post this
Sunday night, I am about 48 hours post soccer season ending. It ends this way for all but one, and yet I
can’t imagine a coach (or player) gets used to it, or ready for it. Each year brings about slightly different
emotions. This year has been
particularly difficult because of the type of on-field season we have had –
because of the ultimate finish that was very much within reach.
And yet, as I sit here 48 hours later I am so incredibly
pleased to affirm what we have been talking about the entire time – We are just
fine. Disappointed? Certainly. But what we have been about with Calvin Men’s
Soccer has never, actually, in fact been about championships. Yes, we would have loved to win, and will
continue to work to do just that. But our treasures are stored elsewhere. The work that Christ has begun in us has very
little to do with soccer and isn’t dependent upon any on field results. Thankfully, I believe we can be made complete
and whole without a national championship – because I don’t believe that is the
missing piece for anybody.
Mark Richt, former head football coach at Georgia, said in
his last words to the program this week, ‘Life is about people, not rings. Rings collect dust.’ His wisdom, along with this weekend’s result,
have caused me to re evaluate where in fact our treasure lies. I hope dearly that we can educate our players
in good soccer. We want to pursue
excellence in all facets of what we are doing.
But that is just the second facet of our mission. First, we want to be men that exhibit
Christlikeness. If we aren’t doing that,
all of the excellence is simply misplaced.
And so, while I am gutted for our guys, and disappointed we
couldn’t climb the peak, I am so proud of who our young men are, who they are
becoming, and of the work the Lord continues to do in, amongst, and through
us. That wins. Period. I am so incredibly blessed to be
associated with these 26 men, our athletic department, and Calvin College as an
institution. What a ride it has been.
So many people have reached out, over the past few weeks in
particular, to offer congrats to our program and to me personally. It is my goal to try and more specifically
follow up and thank each of you, but I wanted to, in this space, take a minute
to publically thank so many that made this fall so incredible. (I have bolded the headings, to try and save
you some time)
Supporters and Friends: In the past few weeks, so many have reached
out to congratulate us, to congratulate me on some of the accomplishments and
honors we have received. From emails,
texts, Facebook posts, and other social media mentions, you have made us the
forefront of your own social footprint.
Thank you for taking the time to notice, and thank you for the
incredibly kind words and encouragements.
I apologize for not reaching out and thanking you individually. I will.
We just wanted to try and keep the main thing the main thing until it
was time to look back.
Notre Dame Men’s
Soccer: You guys have allowed me a
first rate, up close and personal look inside the best men’s soccer program in
the country. I have learned an
incredible amount from you all. However,
even more, I appreciate your friendship.
Additionally, I am incredibly thankful for the group of coaches you
bring around the program. It has been
such a pleasure to work with and be supported by coaches like The Brothers
Casper, Blake New, Michael Tanke, Kelly, Turf, Quinny, Nate, Mark Bell, and
others.
Crown Graphics: A
huge thanks to Mark, Rob, and Rap. Your
investment in me over the years both as a coach and as a man are traits we want
to invest in our players here. Thanks,
also, for all of the printing and gear you provide for our guys. Thanks, too, for your willingness and desire
to print championship T-shirts. I hope
we can get you that business in the future.
KnightNation: I cannot
thank you enough. Throughout the fall,
you made the short trip to Zuidema, came out to Holland, down to Kalamazoo and
other locations along the journey. Most
notably, I simply could not believe the number of you that came down to support
us in Kansas City. To those of you that
took the fan bus, thank you so much.
Aaron and Jay, thanks for putting this together and supervising it. I get chills just thinking about the
reception our men received as they walked off of the bus at the stadium. You have supported us through thick and
thin. We always have the most, and the
best fans. Quite simply, you’re the best
out there. Thank you so much.
Calvin College
Colleagues: So many of you have offered some form of support to us this
year. To the kinesiology department, in
particular, thanks for your high fives in the hallway and your encouragement
along the way.
- - A particular thanks to Amber, Kevin, and Bret for listening to my griping and confusion and finding a way to see past it and impart some much needed wisdom despite being more than busy with their own sports, schedules, and families.
- - To JR, John, and Tim, thanks for conversations and needed laughs and distractions in times that were particularly stressful this fall.
- - To Jodie and Natalie, we quite literally couldn’t have done any of this without you. Your tireless work to organize and arrange details for us allowed us to focus chiefly on the soccer tasks at hand.
- - To Justin and Geoff, I cannot thank you enough for all of the things you never get thanks for. Our field and its condition is absolutely top notch. You deal with my requests and questions with nothing but smiles, when I know that I drive you both crazy. Thanks for your support and for all of the incredibly thankless work you have done for us.
- - Thanks to Jeff Febus for all of his late nights, score updates, interviews, and passion for Calvin Men’s Soccer. Thanks, too, for your friendship and partnership in the frustration that is support of the Gunners.
- - To Brian, Jim, and Nancy. Thank you for your leadership, your investment, and your encouragement. You help to create a culture where we have been able to find on field success while maintaining a desire to invest in student-athletes.
- - To Aaron Winkle, I don’t think there’s been one person at Calvin that has helped me in the tension of wanting to be competitive, but wanting to do it in a way that doesn’t jeopardize the things that really matter. Your support, friendship, and mentoring have been one of the best aspects of Calvin.
- - To Ben and Paul, thanks for your understanding and your encouragement. You two have been all in on us from day one. You come to games, you ask questions, and you love it when we win. When others might question my absence, you two have spurred us, spurred me, on like no one else on campus. I would be fortunate enough to have you as colleagues and supervisors, but am significantly more fortunate to have you as friends.
- - Dr. LeRoy – I can’t imagine there is another college where the school president has made not one, but back-to-back road trips to follow their men’s soccer team. One the one hand, you have love and supported us with words and tongue. Your vision for Calvin College and for the complete nature of our pursuits as athletes has enabled, in many ways, all of the facets of success our men have had. What is more, you have also loved us in action and in truth. Thank you for modeling both for us.
Calvin Men’s Soccer
Alums: Quite simply, we are not here
without you. You set the initial
standard. You are the ones that have
placed the bar for us to reach. Our
current players are here because you have left a legacy that they want to reach
for. What is more, your continued support
has been incredible. Personally, you
have accepted me from day one. I wasn’t
originally one of you, and yet you have chosen to graft me into this incredible
family. I am forever grateful for the
trust, the support, and friendship you have shown and continue to show. We will continue to work tirelessly to lift
the crown so many of you should have hoisted and that you have encouraged us to
pursue, ourselves. I want to
specifically thank Bert Bowden. Bert,
your investment in this program and of the young men has been
other-worldly. While I have no doubt you
have enjoyed some of the wins, it has quite simply never been about that. Thanks for challenging and charging us to
chase after Jesus. That’s a model we
want to continue to be encouraged in.
Calvin Men’s Soccer
Parents: Calvin Men’s Soccer fans outnumbered almost every other team this
year, ON THE ROAD. That is a microcosm
of the support you offer us – you are all in, period. You offer our staff countless words of
encouragement, follow us any and everywhere in the country, and provide the
best meals I eat all year after our home games.
I want to offer a special thanks for Julie Filippini and Dirk Pruis. Julie was the go between for our team parents
and myself. She was always quick to
distribute information and helped organize every facet of team and family
interaction. For anyone who was around
the program this year, you know Julie was the glue that kept so many things
together. Dirk was at every game this
year taking some incredible photos of our guys. Being able to go back and look through these
has been such a joy to see our men and both the highs and lows throughout the
year, recaptured.
Kerri Clausen: Kerri, I cannot thank you enough for the care
and treatment of our men this fall. At
times, you were the only female on a bus of 29 other males. And yet, you never complained, never told us
we were wrong, and put in extra hours to make sure our guys had what they
needed. Your assessments and follow up
with our players, their parents, Dr. K, and myself was seamless and allowed us
the quickest and best chance to get guys back.
Thank you for everything.
Chatham Guys: I won’t take the time to list you all, but
you have supported our program in spades.
For some it has been constant texts of talk and encouragement. Others have supported us financially. You understand the vision of what is trying
to be accomplished here, large in part because you have been a part of
something similar yourselves.
Christian, Matt, and
Greg: You three are on a different level.
You take my stressful phone calls, come to mid-week games from out of
town, and even made a trip to Kansas City.
No matter what is has been you guys have had my back. I cannot thank you enough for that.
Chip: Who would have thought we’d both be in soccer
sixteen years ago? Who would have
thought we’d both be in west Michigan?
And yet here we are. I appreciate
your love for the game, but not near as much as your friendship and your
mentorship. Thanks for supporting us
despite being on the staff of another team across town. Thanks, too, for pushing us to be more than
just a good soccer team. Those are the
things that have impact well beyond any game or season.
My Family: A link
to a blog for thanks doesn’t really cover it.
I am not even playing, and you make trips to away games. You’re always willing to let me ‘dump my
bucket’ and are as excited as anybody when things go well. But what makes you particularly great is that
you aren’t silent when things haven’t always gone well. You’ve always been there, and you’ve always
affirmed my gifts and the use of them for Kingdom purpose.
Brady: I don’t
even want to know the number of people that have told you not to come to
Calvin. Being here simply doesn’t make
coaching career ladder success for a guy with your resume and your abilities. Everyone here knows you could be a head coach
on your own with no problem. And yet,
because it has never been about those things is why things here have been so
great with you. You are an amazing
coach. You bring soccer knowledge,
coaching insights, and clout that has helped our program immensely. And yet your love for our guys and your
friendship are things that far outweigh anything you bring to the soccer
field. I cannot thank you enough for
your partnership in this. Anything we
get recognized for doesn’t happen without you.
I don’t know how long we can keep you, but we will do everything we can
for as long as we can to keep your voice here.
There is no doubt that no matter what happens you are both a knight and
a friend for life.
Our Guys: Where do I start? Each and every one of you brings something
unique to this program. Context falls
apart at some point, but when I read Paul’s letter to the Philippians, I feel
quite similar of you: ‘I
thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I
always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first
day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you
will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.’ I am not in chains, but I am so grateful for
each and every one of you. I am also
fully confident that the good work Christ is completing in you has nothing to
do with soccer. It may provide context,
and it may shape part of it, but as I have gotten to know (and continue to get
to know) you, I know that what God is working in each one of you is amazing and
it is a privilege to watch it play out.
Thanks for buying in. Thanks for
your partnership. Thanks for your lives.
Kacie: Authors and speakers always seem to save the
best for last. This isn’t any
different. You deal with more mess than
anyone else on this list. You get the
brunt of things. You get a crabby coach
(more than others), and all you do is smile, encourage, and affirm the road
that God has me, has us, on. You know
soccer better than I do, and yet you appreciate and value who we are becoming
far more than the soccer. Amidst an
incredibly busy fall, you set about basically planning and entire wedding on
your own. You’re crazy. I love you, cannot tell you how fortunate I
am, and how ready I am to get married.
Thanks for who you are, your commitment to us, and your love and support
for Calvin Soccer.
If
you’ve made it this far, and aren’t Kacie or my parents, I apologize for taking
your time. I know this isn’t exactly the
best way to get all of this out, but like I said, I haven’t been sleeping much
and needed an outlet. I am certain there
are people I have missed. For that I am
sorry and want to thank you as well.
There are far too many people that don’t get mentioned in things like
this that allow for all of this to happen as well.